Supporting the Whole Unit
Family members of first responders experience stressors that are unique to a family unit. The requirements of job, inconsistent schedules, long hours, stressful days, news and unpredictability of the responders day impacts partners, children and the family just as much as it impacts the first responder. Hearing about your first responders dangerous or traumatic experiences can create secondary trauma in family members and even make family members feel that they have to protect their first responder from the stress of the family life day to day. At times, the “brotherhood” culture can make families feel isolated. These things cause extra stress, but knowing what is happening can help families use tools, communication, and supports to cope with these stressors.
Relationship Resources
- The Gottman Institute – Resource on relationships based on research. Provides information and helpful tools for how to strengthen your relationship.
- Creating a Strong Relationship
- Healthy Communication
- Taking Care of Yourself
- 5 Tips for Spouses to Support Their Loved Ones
- Self Care Tips and Strategies
Secondary Trauma
Parenting with a First Responder
- Parenting Resiliency in our Children
- Pause – Reset – Nourish (PRN)* to Promote Wellbeing
- Honoring Those Who Serve: Support for Military & First Responder Families — Red Treehouse
Tools for Children of First Responders
- Helping Your Child Understand Your Job
- How Children of First Responders Can Benefit from Counseling (ems1.com)
General Resources
American Foundation for Suicide Prevention – Resource for understanding warning signs of suicide and how to get help for yourself or someone else.
WNY Helpline -716-858-2677- Confidential family support services. You can call and talk to someone today that understands this feeling. We are here 24/7 for any Law Enforcement officer family members. You are not alone.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – This is a hotline for anyone in crisis or to get help form someone in crisis. You do not need to be suicidal to call this line. They are there to listen and provide resources without judging. Afraid to call? Use the chat function from a computer or mobile device. Either way, you can remain anonymous!
First Responder Children’s Foundation– Helping with grants, financial assistance, toy donations for first responder children